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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Articles about communicationAre you getting through to her?A husband in a Taken In Hand relationship needs to get through to his wife. If he is not getting through to her, his wife needs to find a way to let him know. Noticing and noting the positiveSully's example is a nice reminder to us all to take the trouble to express appreciation when something good happens, rather than focusing on negatives. Correcting possible misconceptions about Taken In HandThis piece by Sully is essential reading for anyone who is shocked by the idea of a Taken In Hand relationship. Journaling: another way to talkDandelion has an interesting take on journaling. Taken out of my anguishMany readers will identify with Dynomite's charming article. Agreements are a two-way streetThe Taken In Hand relationship is an agreement between the two spouses, and to have a good relationship, it is important to uphold agreements. Good communicationSmitten's husband consistently communicates about who he is, and this makes her feel safe. How we stopped the escalation of verbal hostilitiesHow Taken In Hand dramatically reduced the amount of negativity and increased the amount of positive communication in one marriage. Blossoming in his armsSmitten is truly smitten! What if your wife feels scared and vulnerable?Advice for any man whose wife feels scared and vulnerable during the introduction of a Taken In Hand relationship. Do you 'meet as equals' or 'establish roles from the outset'?How in the world can you create a male-controlled relationship if you meet and get to know each other as equals? What causes contrition and crying?A touching story by Louise. Coming unravelled (or not)Moving house, and especially to a completely new area, can make some marriages come unravelled. But if the two of you handle conflict like this couple... Make each other feel the luckiest person alive!These anecdotes from Rabbi Shmuley Boteach's wonderful book, Kosher Sex, might help. Do you tell your beloved that he or she is exceptional?A glimpse at an article that has stayed with me for three years. 2005 Jul 19 - 09:00 | read article | permanent link
Keep your sense of humour!For some couples Taken In Hand has the effect of making it possible to laugh in situations that would once have been sources of tension. My experience of taking my wife in handForty-Something Husband shares his own story of what Taken In Hand has meant to him. If you are a man new to Taken In Hand, or if you know such a man, you won't want to miss this! Is she afraid of losing control? Topping from the bottom?Women sometimes say they want a Taken In Hand relationship but then when they actually start a relationship, seem afraid to give up control. If you are a man who is frustrated that your woman is not acting the way you think she should be acting, or if you are a woman who is being accused of not being submissive enough, not being feminine, or controlling with complaints, hit the read article link now! Closing the gapThis warm and insightful piece illustrates the fact that even those in the closest relationship can sometimes inadvertently misinterpret the other's signals and think that the other is being a bit distant. It also shows how being able to have fun and laugh together can break any tension and put things back on track. Barbie is the doll, Ken is just an accessory.A timely warning that not everyone is ready for a Taken In Hand relationship, and especially not one involving corporal punishment. Wedded blissFor many couples, the move to a Taken In Hand relationship brings fewer arguments not because the woman is then silenced (she is not) but because there is more good feeling and intimacy in the relationship. Find your voice and speakAmeribritwife says that reading this site reinforces her self acceptance and gives her new ways to see herself, her husband and their marriage. Taken in hand by tendernessAmeribritwife asked her husband to help her wake up earlier. Hit the read article link to find out what happened. Familiarity breeds contemptAn argument against “excessive familiarity” in close relationships. A gentle giant who loves and serves the woman he leadsTo read Kat's touching tribute to her husband, hit the read article link now. He's in charge. . . but I do it my wayIs there one undisputed leader in your relationship? If so, what does that mean in practice? Do the right thing - be the captain of your shipSome excellent advice for the man whose wife or girlfriend wants to be taken in hand. How we stopped fighting and became happier togetherA week after discovering the Taken In Hand site, Louise and her husband had a terrible row. To find out how they resolved the crisis and became happier together, hit the read article link now. The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman: book reviewOne reader found this book helpful. An alpha female bares her throat only to her mateA strong woman might want might well want to be cherished by a stronger man, and she might well not be generally submissive or want to be treated like a servant. Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silentA man in control would be wise to ensure that his woman feels ‘heard’ – accepting a man's authority should not mean ceasing to have a voice in the relationship. If only one mind were doing the necessary thinking and problem-solving, the other would be superfluous. Greater humility, less defensivenessAnnie D. has been amazed to discover that Taken In Hand has made it easier for her to admit when she has been mistaken. Consent, control, connectionWithout control and consent to that control, for many Taken In Hand people there is no erotic connection and nothing to feed the relationship. It is working as advertised!For Louise and her husband, Taken In Hand has, as it were, worked as advertised. In my roomFosti on how he sees his role as the head of his household. Not to be missed! Switches do grow on treesA walk in the country will never be the same again after reading this charming article. A relationship of equalsAdam's vision of a Taken In Hand relationship – a relationship of equals, with both modern and traditional elements. CommunicationThis short and sweet piece is about the flourishing of communication in a Taken In Hand relationship. Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doomBaltazar (husband of CondusedofHomeCounties) talks about how they moved to a Taken In Hand relationship and how he discovered that taking his wife in hand helped stop rows getting out of hand, and may just have saved their marriage. Is there consent?When a man takes or takes a woman in hand and she seems to be resisting and complaining, is there consent? It depends. |