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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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But there are very few websites for people who are interested in male-led intimate relationships but who are not interested in all that the above communities associate with this kind of relationship (jargon, clothes, etc.) “[Taken In Hand] is really the most beautiful website devoted to DD.” “[Taken In Hand] is my major kink” “[Taken In Hand is an] erudite and intelligent site” “[Taken In Hand is a]n excellent site with many thought-provoking articles and responses.” “[Taken In Hand is] one of the most exciting sites on the internet!” “[T]he whole damn site really is one of the most well articulated (pro/con) loaded blogs I've seen. It provides a cross section of how people are feeling out there even amongst those who are ‘seemingly’ natural allies.” “As I view it, I'm a control freak. I love to be in control. However, I fantasize about that control being stripped from me and handed over to someone else....namely, my husband. 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No IndexThis site no more?Unless we can find a new host for this site, it will cease to exist soon. Is there anyone out there who can help? For more information, click the 'read article' link. UPDATE: See my comment containing information about bandwidth, disk space, etc. Disgusted by the idea of Taken In Hand and with anyone who associates with itEDITOR'S NOTE: I am approving this material because I find the writer's misconceptions interesting, but before you decide to read on, please be aware that it is extremely negative about Taken In Hand (or rather, about the writer's mistaken conception of Taken In Hand). Don't read this when you are feeling fragile. Could I ask everyone considering replying to this to keep your replies calm and non-defensive rather than adopting the writer's own tone. People often argue most forcefully against ideas they are about to adopt. There is no way to tell whether this writer is drawn to Taken In Hand as well as being utterly repulsed and disgusted by it, but nevertheless, when you reply, imagine that you are replying for the benefit of those who are trying to get good solid answers to all the objections anyone might make, so that they can then stop fighting their desire for a Taken In Hand relationship. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2007 Jun 4 - 08:47 | 40 comments | read article | permanent link
Does the control in a Taken In Hand relationship make sense?A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2007 Mar 25 - 07:27 | 64 comments | read article | permanent link
How can I persuade him to take control in our relationship?This is an FAQ question: How can I persuade him to take control in our relationship? Where is the yin and yang with two alphas?yin and yang A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2006 Jul 23 - 22:13 | 3 comments | read article | permanent link
Pleasing your man makes you feel more lovey and lustyIt may be out of fashion but many women positively enjoy making their husband's life more pleasant. Write a reviewInformation for those who want to write book/film reviews. 2006 Jan 5 - 19:38 | read article | permanent link
Introducing Carl... "masculine, intellectual and cool"A personal ad Home at lastAfter years of searching for a comfortable, and safe place for the belief in my heart of "beyond love" it is a last, home, thank you for this loving site. Rick, my mind, and heart will be forever grateful to you for this gift, thank you! A readers' forum post by Lolliepop on 2005 Aug 21 - 08:18 | 1 comment | read article | permanent link
Is the silent treatment ever a good thing?Hi, I am fairly new to this site and I have a few questions. I recently wrote my husband a two page letter regarding that I want to submit to him completly consensually of course. I feel that he was kind of shocked but now he is slowly moving into the idea of it. The first time I told him he didn't say anything. The second time, I asked him if he understood what I was trying to get across to him his repsonse was yes. I brought the subject up again and he told me to relax. He did agree to buy me a jeweled chain that you could lock with a key, and he would have the key. I haven't gotten it yet though but soon I will. Anyways he also read two of the Taken In Hand articles about childlikeness in a woman and what men get out of a taken in hand relationship. A readers' forum post by halslittlelolita on 2005 Aug 6 - 19:21 | 1 comment | read article | permanent link
Privacy - spanking is not a quiet activityTo all who are reading: To start with, I am a man who is very comfortable with being in the position of head of household. My nature is to lead and be in control of my world. A controlnik for sure. My world (household) has been consisting of headstrong women of various ages. The gods do test! It is a melded family that brought to life many aspects that one doesn't plan for or necessarily expect. My lovely bride is a wonderfully positive person and for the most part sees the good in people. I on the other hand am mostly blind that way. We are a good mix. Sometime back she delivered up some news that she was interested in spanking/ domestic discipline. I think I was just a little surprised, but not too much. Can't say why it didn't floor me. "C" as I will call her from here on, proclaimed that she had been reading on the net about this and asked if I would care to look into it also. I did and have found that reading about it didn’t "do much" for me. Though I have seen numerous parallels to our beginnings. On being the servant-leader in my relationshipStephen keeps in mind the “servant” bit of “servant-leader”. No wonder his wife spoils him! Taken In Hand reviews and discussions of books, films, etcA meta note from the editor about submitting articles, etc. Given a choice between two men ...... why do some women gravitate to the one who treats her worst? Introducing... Richard: “a happy, harmonious life”A personal ad Danger surrounds youBeth Young's behavioural inventory results 2005 Mar 22 - 23:19 | read article | permanent link
Walk very carefully and get helpBeth Young's behavioural inventory results 2005 Mar 22 - 23:19 | read article | permanent link
There are some things to take care ofBeth Young's behavioural inventory results 2005 Mar 22 - 23:19 | read article | permanent link
Doing pretty wellBeth Young's behavioural inventory results 2005 Mar 22 - 23:19 | read article | permanent link
On being a manA man must have the capacity to look beyond himself. Are you having trouble telling your man what you want?A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2005 Jan 27 - 06:18 | 2 comments | read article | permanent link
Introducing... Mike: “seeking healthy relationship”A personal ad Introducing... Eva: “a typical Pisces”A personal ad. Ideas for articlesLifeOfCuriosity's ideas for articles. Discipline Spankings: How hard?I just wondered if anyone could give me some feedback on the length and force behind an average discipline spanking. I realize these vary, but I am curious about the average one recieve most often. Forums always say that this is different for everyone and that there should be no rules at all about this, but that just offers no help at all. My husband keeps remarking that he doesn't spank me hard enough, and I assure you that it feels very hard to me. I do not have marks the next morning though. Is it common to bruises after a discipline spanking? Is it common to use a paddle? Is it more common to just use a hand? I just want some help with all of this, and again, I do realize that everyone is different, but I could use some examples for my own peace of mind. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Dec 30 - 14:05 | 3 comments | read article | permanent link
Introducing... Saundra: “a little extra spice”A personal ad Sharing the secret of our successWhen you receive comments like: “What happened? You two look so much in love now!” you may feel like sharing the secret of your success. But how can you tell people in ways that won't attract condemnation and wild misunderstandings? Frank Nelson has the answers! It's sexual even when it's notDon't miss this characteristically insightful comment by Frank Nelson. 2004 Feb 15 - 08:04 | read article | permanent link
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