Can two naturally dominant individuals have a good relationship, as I have argued, or not? This very interesting piece addresses the issue from a slightly different perspective.

Many readers find the idea of control through sheer physical force exciting, but in this piece, Louise points out that it is the psychological control that her husband has over her (with his authoritative manner) that really excites her. (Note to Taken In Hand writers and potential writers: I'd like to put up more articles exploring the psychology of control (whether expressed physically forcefully or otherwise) should anyone feel like submitting an article or three.)

In a Taken In Hand relationship, the purpose of any physical force there may be is not correction but connection through dominant control. DeeMarie argues that if a man wants to be spanked, he has submissive tendencies that will be repulsive to some women reading Taken In Hand.

Louise used to think that making changes to please her husband would be to diminish herself. She was not going to change! To find out what changed her mind and what happened when she changed her policy, hit the read article link now!

Eric says he wants neither a dominant nor a submissive woman. What he wants is what he describes as a “resistant” woman. To find out what he means by that, hit the read article link now!

This brilliant piece should have been on the front page long ago. Melanie's description of the wrestling with forbidden desires that she went through on her way to bliss will strike a chord with many, many readers. Please write more articles, Melanie!

Women who are high dominance tend to attract lots of submissive men. What is a woman to do if she is strong and possibly even dominant in some sense, but she is drawn to men who are even more dominant than she is, and not to submissive men? Try to suppress her strength? Try to become more submissive? Try to act submissive even when she doesn't feel it? What do you think?

Blush was a spirited, independent woman when she met Gary. Then she added to that her submission. And now loves it so much that she misses it when Gary is preoccupied with work and not asking for so much submission from her.

Being a phlegmatic sort of person, it is not often that the mere presence of another person has the power to do any more than make me recoil from the olfactory shock caused by their halitosis or their overpowering aftershave. But very occasionally (about once a decade) I have found myself intensely affected by the mere presence of a man – so intensely affected that it has taken every ounce of self-control to appear unmoved. Why?

How did you become interested in Taken In Hand? Here is Bonnie's story.

How did you tell your husband that you wanted to be taken in hand? And what happened when you did? Hit the read article for this heart-warming story of one person's journey from suppressing her desires, to getting what she wants.

Why do you use discipline in your relationship? For Melanie and Paul, it is erotic, it makes Melanie want to submit, and it makes Paul feel protective; thus, they want to make each other happy. Yeay!

The three things DG wants in a relationship, he has in abundance with his wife. To find out what those three things are, click the read article link.

Does being submissive imply a lack of self-expression? Do you think it means not expressing your opinions?

Don't miss this lovely account by Lady K of her development from vague stirrings when she read Heinlein's I Will Fear No Evil to the beautiful Taken In Hand relationship she and her husband have now.

Don't miss this short and very wise piece about the difference between submission and subjugation.

This short and very sweet piece by Melanie is about another fascinating and paradox of Taken In Hand relationships. I look forward to receiving more articles from you, Melanie!

In her article, First year trials, Susie Joy mentioned that she had initially fought her husband's control but that they then found peace. Hit the read article link for her insights into the change of heart that changed everything.

In this beautifully-written article, Jeff explains that Taken In Hand trusting another to care for you most intimately, and caring enough for another that they trust you with their most intimate self.

Some interesting criticisms of Laura Doyle's book, The Surrendered Wife.

In this fascinating article, Random frankly relates what he gets out of his relationship with J. Definitely one to show a man if you want to introduce him to the idea of Taken In Hand style relationships!

An interesting update from Melanie, who has been doing some reading.

Secretary was recommended to me as “a film that brings spanking into the mainstream,” “very sexy,” and “one to show a vanilla partner.” But one Taken In Hand reader I talked to vehemently disagreed with this praise. I decided to see it for myself. If you have not seen it and have not yet read any reviews of it, it might be worth seeing it before clicking the read article link.

In this warm exploration of the idea of spanking for connection, Max Maximovich argues that to be happy in life, we must learn what our true nature is and follow it in the best and most honest way we know how.

Some might think that a woman who is submissive is a woman who is weak, and that a man who is dominant is strong. Random draws some useful distinctions and explains why he has such a low opinion of weak men.

Why would an intelligent, sane, successful woman want to be taken in hand? Hit the read article link for J's answer.

If you can't imagine why anyone would find childlikeness an attractive characteristic, hit the read article link now, for this very enlightening explanation by Random.

Tracy describes the dominance and submission which characterises her long-term marriage. This all happened early on, before they had read about these kinds of relationships, so what strikes me about Tracy's description is how natural it all sounds. A lovely piece.

Sam and Missy have been happily married for 23 years, but Sam had always had the feeling that something was missing, both within himself and in the marriage. Then he discovered Taken In Hand...

Do we choose to be taken in hand because we want to be, such as for the connection or because the whole idea is very erotic? Or is it that we women need to be controlled because we can't control ourselves? As a phlegmatic, competent, rational sort of person, I have always argued that this is something even the most logical, sane woman can choose. If you have to be the sort of person who can't function sensibly in the world to be taken in hand, I don't qualify! But that doesn't mean that I don't want to be taken in hand. I do! From what Nina says in this no-nonsense comment, she feels the same way.

On her journey into true submission, Linda faced many struggles and doubts and other problems, and challenged herself and her attitude at every turn. You may not agree with everything she says, but her story is awe-inspiring and humbling. Here is a woman who truly lives the idea that she is fallible; here is a truly strong woman.

Random paints a powerful word picture of the freeing, liberated feeling he has as a result of being the head of his household. If you can't understand the attraction of this sort of relationship, don't miss this!

Max Maximovich on his fabulous relationship with M, and his thoughts on the paradox he has mentioned here.

For Random, part of the appeal of taking a woman in hand is connected with her femininity. In this piece, he explains why he finds feminine women particularly appealing.

Taken In Hand is not about turning a woman into a servant or slave.

In this charming article, which I know will speak to lots of women, and help men understand how many women feel, Amber writes about her childhood irritation with helpless movie heroines, and about her later discovery that being submissive does not have to mean giving up your strong, independent, effective self.

When Caroline last wrote, she feared she had awoken a sleeping dragon. Now she relates how the flames felt. Hot stuff!

If you can't imagine why anyone would want to be spanked, and can't imagine what possible positive feelings it could occasion, hit the read article link. This powerful, poignant piece by Annie is very illuminating.

Some things don't change. Hit the read article link for a passionate excerpt from the 12th Century Provençal poem, Flamenca.

If a woman finds the idea of being taken in hand erotic, how can taking her in hand also ’work’ to modify her behaviour? Spanking would be a reward, not a punishment! Wouldn't it be more efficient to withhold spanking? Nooooooooooo! Hit the read article link to find out why not!