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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Articles about submissivenessI don't want to be submissive!Like many women on this site who want to be actively controlled by their man, Sully finds the idea of ‘just submitting’ (to what, exactly, if the man is not exerting control?!) decidedly unappealing. Why we rejected rules and punishment in our Taken In Hand relationshipSome couples' marriages are most definitely Taken In Hand but involve nothing even remotely resembline rules and punishment. Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...Eroticising pregnancy brings husband and wife together and makes the whole experience very special. A man with a backbone can be very soothingA Taken In Hand woman who is outraged about a decision her husband has made, may well be aghast if she succeeds in getting her man to change his decision. It can be very soothing to be with a man who holds firm and does not allow himself to be pushed about. SM / D/s / BDSM in a Taken In Hand relationship?If you have a dog cage in your bedroom (but you don't own a dog), can your relationship be a Taken In Hand one? From clues to a wonderful realityA wise husband seems to have discovered that his wife needs a firm hand. It's all my parents' fault!Yes, this time it's not my grandparents, it's my parents! A Taken In Hand relationship reaches beyond the coupleBlush on the relationship between Gary's kindness and magnanimity to her and her kindness and magnanimity to others. Submission must be earnedInMyDreams says that submission is not something to give without careful consideration. For the benefit of new readers, note that many Taken In Hand women do not identify with the “submissive” label. This is for those who do. Our journey through BDSM to Taken in HandOne woman's journey from what she describes as “kinky sex” to Taken In Hand. Alternative therapyWarning: you may want to skip this provocative and daring article by LifeOfCuriosity if you have a weak heart or if you are not in a private location. However, lest that mislead you, rest assured that this article is nothing to do with casual encounters, and everything to do with the close and safe bonding of a loving relationship. The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. Natural flowOn natural flow as opposed to unnaturally dominant or submissive behaviour, with advice to men to put the woman before their own whims, and not to expect to be in charge of everything all the time. Are you the Conan the Barbarian type?If you're looking for a Conan the Barbarian type, the requirement that consent be explicit is a real drag. DeeMarie has some advice for any Conans out there. Could you be a slave, owned, property?Does property always do what it's told? Does being a slave mean abdicating moral responsibility in the name of obedience? Why might a woman consider herself a slave, and why do Taken In Hand generally prefer not to a slave? Acts of loveWhat kind of service does every able-bodied person whose relationships are good give loved ones? Love-based service. An alpha female bares her throat only to her mateA strong woman might want might well want to be cherished by a stronger man, and she might well not be generally submissive or want to be treated like a servant. My husband and I face the world as a teamBramble's beautiful relationship sounds like my grandparents' relationship. I love the mutual respect and kindness here. An inspitation! Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silentA man in control would be wise to ensure that his woman feels ‘heard’ – accepting a man's authority should not mean ceasing to have a voice in the relationship. If only one mind were doing the necessary thinking and problem-solving, the other would be superfluous. Giving up control is not easyGiving up control to the degree Otter has done is really not easy, should not be rushed, and is not for everyone; but for Otter, ultimately, it has relieved stress. A strong willed woman wanting a man to lose againstFor some men, the ideal relationship would be with a strong, independent, fiesty woman... who wants an even stronger man. Can you be Taken In Hand if you're not submissive?What is the difference between being submissive (if you're a woman) on the one hand, and being Taken In Hand on the other? Or is there any difference? It depends whom you ask! How my husband makes me meltLouise on the power of her husband's newfound calm, to soothe her into submissiveness. Are you submissive to all men or to only one man?Since telling her husband that she wanted a Taken In Hand relationship, Charlotte has found that other men seem to sense that she feels very strongly that she belongs to her husband. Could this kind of relationship be for you?What exactly is a Taken In Hand relationship? Giving my best to my man who put his foot downStrange though it may seem, some women passionately want a man who will put his foot down and wear the trousers in the relationship. Enjoying our relationshipBabydoll is so happy that her husband loves their Taken In Hand relationship and glad that he felt able to show her his dominant side even after an unfortunately bad past relationship. Working wivesSome women are thrilled that their husbands do not allow them to work outside the home; others revel in the fact that their husbands take them in hand and also support their wish to work. This working women would prefer not to work but does because she loves and submits to her husband, and he prefers her to work. Why is this desire so powerful?Why is the desire some women have for a Taken In Hand relationship so strong? For Michael's answer, hit the read article link now. Practical hints for men - times of stressCarlf offers some advice to men about maintaining a Taken In Hand relationship through times of stress. Prevention is better than cureIf a woman disobeys her man, Horst argues, the man should assume that he is at least partly at fault. The weaker vesselOne reason the word “submissive” makes some women uncomfortable is its association with compulsory submission and the idea of woman as “the weaker vessel”. Linguistically submissiveIn this fascinating and thorough analysis of the word “submissive”, LifeOfCuriosity concludes that submissiveness is an attitude that leads to a course of action chosen and performed by the submissive person and that it is something that is done best by those with much to give. My husband's calm control makes me feel submissiveIt is not the act of spanking in itself that causes such wonderful changes when couples move into a Taken In Hand relationship, it is the underlying psychological effects on both partners, as Louise's very nice example shows. The importance of conquestThis brilliant article explains the need many Taken In Hand women feel to be decisively conquered by their man, and why less resistant-sounding forms of submission leave many women cold despite the fact that they do indeed want to submit to a man. The submissive alpha femaleWhat is a submissive alpha female (or an “alpha submissive” woman, as a reader asked)? DeeMarie has the answer! Why is BDSM so popular?Why is BDSM so much more popular than Taken In Hand, and why is it that some BDSM folk are so disapproving of Taken In Hand? My marriage is a safe havenBramble doesn't fear her husband and nor does she want to. She is the one her husband protects, not the one he fights. Quietly taken in handNot all Taken In Hand relationships involve pain, punishment, spanking. Some work perfectly well with more subtle forms of control. Bramble's husband's authority is quiet, but he is most definitely in charge. Which comes first? Dominance or submission?Which do you think should come first? The control by the man – as in bringing the woman to submission – or the woman's submission? As with everything else, it probably depends on the individuals concerned. |