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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Some of the best writing I've seen on these topics, from a variety of authors.” “[Taken In Hand is] a brill resource.... for info articles... and real life experiences” “A very cool site” “Thank you for providing such a positive, validating place for like-minded people to talk about this in a way that affirms the dignity of both men and women” “a great site” “an exremely high quality site... I highly recommend [Taken In Hand].” “fantastic site” “Intéressant à lire” “Un site remarquable” “[Y]our site rocks!” “Visit Taken in Hand for a lot of good thoughts. I think you'll find them useful even if you don't use corporal punishment.” “a wonderful site” “the best there is” “The answer to every single discussion is there. Best piece of text I read ever...And it rings SO true.” “What a wonderful website. ... [S]o much of this I can relate to my life. ... It has been a while since I have read a website that was ‘different’ than most.” “GREAT site” “Website of the Month” Other |
Louise CA mysterious compulsion to obeyLoise on the mysterious effect of a certain tone of voice. Obedience - a curious and perverse pleasureLouise muses on the peculiar phenomenon of women choosing to obey their husbands, and being thrilled by their husband's control. Don't be an "if only" personIf you are hoping to find someone with whom to have a Taken In Hand relationship, don't miss this advice from Louise. Forget femininity!Louise doesn't think much of people acting like idiots. Man of Steel and Velvet by Aubrey Andelin: a book reviewRead Louise's review of Aubrey Andelin's Man of Steel and Velvet or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Setting the record straight about punishment spankingLouise concisely articulates how punishment spanking works for her and her husband and other Taken In Hand couples whose relationships have this feature. Laura Schlessinger vs Helen Andelin on how to treat your husbandLouise compares one book to the other. Fascinating Womanhood and meUnlike many Taken In Hand women, Louise is not impressed. Living the fantasy 24/7Taking your wife in hand does not mean what some husbands fear it might mean, as Louise explains. It's not because he's infallibleIn Taken In Hand relationships in which there is corporal punishment, it is all one way: husband spanking wife. People often ask if this means we think the man is infallible or the woman inferior. In her inimitable way, Louise sets the record straight. Are Men Necessary?, by Maureen Dowd: a book reviewRead Louise's review of it?Are Men Necessary?, by Maureen Dowd, or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Spanking in angerNot every man loses control when angry, and not every woman is terrified by being spanked in anger. For some couples in some situations, it is a good idea, as Louise explains. Life with Woman and How to Survive it, by Joseph H. Peck: a reviewLouise reports on this interesting little book from 1961. I never learnLouise says she should know better than to make rash statements on this site, because fate has a way of catching her out. To promise or not to promise?If you make a promise no human being could deliver, says Louise, you may live to regret it. Is it real?Louise wonders if it is real. Real what? That is the question. Who Stole Feminism? by Christina Hoff Sommers: a book reviewLouise C on this fascinating book. How are things different from before Taken In Hand?Louise says that it was when she discovered this site that she first considered the idea that it could be possible to respond pleasurably to authority rather than negatively. Thy Rod and Staff, by Edward Anthony: a book reviewLouise reviews this book. What causes contrition and crying?A touching story by Louise. Coming unravelled (or not)Moving house, and especially to a completely new area, can make some marriages come unravelled. But if the two of you handle conflict like this couple... Taking Sex Differences Seriously, by Steven E. RhoadsIf you have read this book, this is the place to write a review of it. Feeling thrilled by the prospect of being taken in handSome might find it highly unreasonable to be punished for forgetfulness; others find it fun and thrilling. Keep your sense of humour!For some couples Taken In Hand has the effect of making it possible to laugh in situations that would once have been sources of tension. When your love doesn't want to get marriedWhat happens when one person does not want to marry the other despite the fact that the other really wants to get married? Getting To "I Do", by Patricia Allen: a book reviewRead Louise's review of Pat Allen's Getting to “I Do” or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Being taken in hand was really rather superFor those for whom being taken in hand can involve being given a jolly good hiding! Is he head of the household?If a man is kind and generous-hearted, can he be head of the household? Yes of course! Those who aren't, shouldn't be. How we stopped fighting and became happier togetherA week after discovering the Taken In Hand site, Louise and her husband had a terrible row. To find out how they resolved the crisis and became happier together, hit the read article link now. Different strokes for different folksEven within Taken In Hand, different individuals have very different preferences. Taken In Hand means different things to different peopleThere is a lot to consider if you want to be taken in hand. Here are just a few of the issues you might want to think about and discuss. Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silentA man in control would be wise to ensure that his woman feels ‘heard’ – accepting a man's authority should not mean ceasing to have a voice in the relationship. If only one mind were doing the necessary thinking and problem-solving, the other would be superfluous. It is working as advertised!For Louise and her husband, Taken In Hand has, as it were, worked as advertised. How my husband makes me meltLouise on the power of her husband's newfound calm, to soothe her into submissiveness. If I asked for the moon...You won't want to miss this moving article. It is about the generosity of spirit that real love brings. The weaker vesselOne reason the word “submissive” makes some women uncomfortable is its association with compulsory submission and the idea of woman as “the weaker vessel”. My husband's calm control makes me feel submissiveIt is not the act of spanking in itself that causes such wonderful changes when couples move into a Taken In Hand relationship, it is the underlying psychological effects on both partners, as Louise's very nice example shows. Can physical chastisement cure bad habits?For Louise's answer, hit the read article link now! |